Dating in Finland: what newcomers should know

How dating works here

• •Either person can make the first move; women asking men out is common and normal.
• •Splitting the bill is very common, and many couples also share costs in a relationship; just ask how your date prefers to do it.
• •Punctuality matters: arriving on time is a basic sign of respect.
• •Dating apps are widely used, and organised social nights such as speed dating are growing because many people are tired of swiping.
• •A first date is usually simple: coffee, a drink, a walk or a museum, not an expensive dinner.
• •Silence is not awkward for Finns; quiet moments in a conversation are normal and not a sign of disinterest.
• •Small talk is less common than in many countries, but serious, honest conversation is valued.
• •Sauna is a normal social activity and not sexual; mixed public saunas use swimwear, and many have separate sections for men and women.
• •Strangers rarely start conversations in bars while sober, and alcohol plays a big role in weekend nightlife.
• •Personal space is valued; touching and public affection are usually kept modest early on.
• •Equality is taken seriously, and old-fashioned gender roles can come across as odd.
• •Almost everyone in Helsinki speaks good English, and trying a few Finnish words is appreciated.